How to Use a Dildo: A Beginner-Friendly Guide

Dildos are one of the most popular and versatile sex toys out there. They come in so many shapes, sizes, materials, and designs that no matter who you are, there’s one that can give you that “just right” feeling.

Whether you’re using one for solo fun, partner play, or just exploring your body in new ways, a dildo can offer amazing internal stimulation. But to get the most out of it, it helps to know what you’re working with—and how to use it right.

In this guide, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know about using a dildo, from choosing the right size to experimenting with positions. We’ll even throw in our honest thoughts and favorite picks to get you started.

What Is a Dildo?

Let’s start simple. A dildo is a sex toy designed to penetrate the vagina or anus. Some are realistic and shaped like a penis, while others are smooth, curved, textured, or even double-ended.

Dildos don’t vibrate (unless you get one with a built-in vibe), and they don’t move on their own. That’s part of the beauty—you control the angle, depth, and rhythm. Whether you want something small and smooth or huge and adventurous, there’s something for everyone.

Always Use Lube

This is rule number one. Using a good amount of water-based lubricant makes everything feel better—smoother, more comfortable, and more pleasurable.

Here’s the quick guide:

• Silicone, rubber, or realistic dildos = use water-based lube only

• Glass or metal dildos = use any lube (water, silicone, hybrid—you name it)

Lube also helps prevent discomfort, especially if you’re trying a larger toy or going for anal play. More lube = more fun.

Go Slow and Build Up

Dildos come in different sizes, and believe us—a small difference in girth can feel huge.

If you’re new or trying a bigger toy, don’t rush it. Start by warming up with your fingers or a smaller dildo. Use lube, take your time, and listen to your body.

Some people enjoy the feeling of being filled. Others like the stretching. And for some, it’s just about hitting the right spots—like the G-spot or P-spot.

Just remember: you don’t need to take the full length to enjoy it. Use only what feels good.

Try New Positions

You don’t have to lie on your back the whole time. Dildos are great because you can use them in so many positions—standing, squatting, on your knees, or even against the wall with a suction base.

Suction dildos are especially fun because you can stick them to the floor, shower, or bed frame and go hands-free.

You can also use dildos with a strap-on harness, or let your partner use one on you. Dildos don’t get tired, and they don’t need recovery time—so explore all the angles!

Share the Fun

Dildos don’t have to be a solo thing. They’re great for couples who want to spice things up. You can:

• Use it on your partner

• Let them use it on you

• Try double penetration (vaginal + anal or toy + penis)

• Use a double-ended dildo so you both feel it at the same time

Want something really personal? Try a molded dildo made from your partner’s actual penis (Clone-A-Willy kits are a thing!). But even without custom toys, the options are endless.

Dildo Products in Playmate

Not sure where to begin? Here’s a look at some great dildo options from Playmate Adult Store, whether you’re into realistic shapes, double penetration, suction bases, or super sizes.

Product	Best For	Length	Features	Suction Base	Notes
Huge Dildo 12.2 Inches	Size lovers	12.2"	Realistic, firm	✅	Advanced only—massive size!
10.2" Dildo with Suction Base	Deep thrusting	10.2"	Smooth, flexible	✅	Great for wall or floor fun.
Double Penetration Dildo Suction Base	DP play	Dual shafts	Realistic	✅	Perfect for one-person double action.
15.7" Double-Ended Dildo	Couple play	15.7"	Double-ended	❌	Great for sharing, vaginal or anal.
7.8" Realistic Dildo	Beginners	7.8"	Veined detail	✅	Good balance of size and feel.
8" Dildo with Suction Base	Hands-free fun	8"	Smooth	✅	Mid-size with strong suction.
7.8" Dildo	Everyday use	7.8"	Classic shape	❌	Simple, easy to handle.
Double Penetration Vibrating Dildo	DP + vibration	Dual shafts	Vibrates	✅	Adds buzz to the double fun.
6" Dildo with Balls + Suction Base	Beginners	6"	Balls for realism	✅	Shorter, great starter toy.
Double Fantasy Dildo	DP fantasy	Dual ends	Curved shafts	❌	Flexible and fantasy-focused.
Double Trouble Dildo	More stimulation	Dual ends	Textured	✅	Ideal for deep exploration.

❓ FAQ: Dildo Edition

Q1: Can I use a dildo vaginally and anally?
Yes, but not the same one in both places unless you clean it first or use a condom over it. Keep it hygienic.

Q2: How do I clean a dildo?
Use warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner. Make sure it’s fully dry before storing.

Q3: Does size matter when choosing a dildo?
Yes. Start small or medium if you’re new. Bigger dildos feel very different and take more prep.

Q4: Can I use dildos with a partner?
Absolutely! Many couples use them during foreplay, penetration, or double play.

Q5: Where can I find more options?
Explore the full Dildo Collection at Playmate Adult Store—tons of shapes, sizes, and styles for all kinds of play.

❤️ Final Thoughts

Dildos are more than just toys—they're tools for pleasure, discovery, and connection. Whether you’re going solo, playing with a partner, or just want to see what the hype is about, there’s no wrong way to explore.

Just use lube, go slow, try different positions, and most importantly—have fun.

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