Best Sex Toys for Lesbians in NZ: A Playmate Buying Guide

The best sex toy for lesbians is not one specific thing. It is not automatically a strap-on, a dildo, or whatever the internet thinks all lesbian couples are using this week.

Some people want direct clitoral stimulation. Some love penetration. Some prefer toys that can be used together without too much planning. Some are shopping solo. Some are choosing something with a partner. Some want a small, discreet vibrator that does the job without making the whole thing feel like a project.

That is the point of this guide. Instead of treating “lesbian sex toys” as one narrow category, we are breaking it down by how the toy feels, how it is used, and what kind of mood it suits. Whether you are after a clit vibrator, dildo, rabbit vibrator, remote-control toy or strap-on, Playmate has a wide range of sex toys in NZ for different bodies, preferences and comfort levels.

External Pleasure: Clit Vibrators, Bullet Vibes & Suction Toys

If you are not sure where to start, external toys are usually the easiest entry point. They are simple, versatile and do not require penetration. They also work well whether you are using them alone or with someone else. For many women, clitoral stimulation is the main event, not an extra. So this section deserves to come first.

Small, Discreet Vibrators

Small vibrators are good for beginners, but they are not only for beginners. A compact clit vibrator can be easy to control, easy to store and easy to bring into partner play without interrupting the moment.

• Bullet Portable Vibrator: a simple pick for anyone who wants a small, direct vibrator. It is a good starting point if you want something affordable and easy to use without going straight into bigger toy styles. 
• Lipstick Vibe Portable Vibrator: a discreet option for anyone who prefers a toy that does not look too obvious. It is compact, beginner-friendly and easy to keep nearby without making a big deal out of it. 
• Lady Vibe Clitoral Vibrator: another straightforward external toy. It suits shoppers who want a simple clit vibrator without moving into suction toys, rabbits or larger designs yet. 

Stronger External Vibrators and Suction Toys

Once you know you like external stimulation, you might want something with more power, more texture or a more focused sensation. This is where wand-style vibrators and suction toys come in.

• Magic Wand Clitoral Vibrator: better suited to people who want stronger external stimulation. Compared with a tiny bullet, a wand-style toy gives broader contact and can be easier to use over different areas of the body. 
• Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation: made for focused clitoral stimulation, using gentle air-pulse suction rather than traditional vibration. It can be a great choice if you enjoy external pleasure and want something more targeted than a small bullet vibe or wand. Use it solo, or bring it into partner play when you want clit-focused stimulation without adding penetration.
• Satisfyer One Night Stand Clitoral Stimulator: gives you another suction-style option at a lower price point. It is useful for anyone who wants to try this type of sensation without starting with the most premium option.

More Sensation: Dildos, Vibrating Dildos & Rabbit Vibrators

Some women enjoy penetration. Some do not. Some enjoy it only in certain moods or with certain partners. This section is for people who already know they enjoy internal stimulation, or who are curious about adding it to solo or partner play.

Dildos and Vibrating Dildos

A dildo can be simple, hands-free, realistic, vibrating, flexible or more intense depending on the design. Dildos come in many styles, from simple realistic designs to suction-base and vibrating options. For first-time users or anyone still exploring what feels comfortable, a moderate size is usually the better place to start before trying larger or more intense toys.

• 7.8 Inch Realistic Dildo: offers a familiar shape and a balanced size for those who enjoy penetration but do not want to start with anything too large. It can be used solo or with a partner, and works best with a generous amount of water-based lube for smoother, more comfortable play.
• 8-Inch Dildo with Suction Base: useful if you want more positioning options. The suction base can make hands-free play easier, whether used solo or with a partner. 
• 7.8-Inch Vibrating Dildo: sits nicely between a vibrator and a traditional dildo. It is a good choice for someone who wants internal stimulation but also likes vibration. 

Rabbit Vibrators for Dual Stimulation

Rabbit vibrators are for people who like internal and external stimulation at the same time. They are often talked about as solo toys, but they can also be used with a partner if that suits the moment. The key thing is this: a rabbit vibrator is not “more advanced” in a scary way. It is just more specific. It works best for someone who already knows they enjoy both sensations together.

• Naughty Rabbit Vibrator 30 Functions: designed for blended internal and external stimulation, with multiple settings to explore different rhythms and intensities. It can suit anyone who enjoys both penetration and clitoral stimulation, whether used solo or as part of partner play.
• G Spot Rabbit Vibrator 6 Functions: shaped for those who want G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time. With six vibration functions, it gives you room to find the setting that feels right without making the toy feel overly complicated.
• Wicked Bunny Rabbit Vibrator: another rabbit-style option for dual stimulation. It is a playful choice if you like the idea of internal vibration paired with clit-focused contact, especially when you want something more shaped and specific than a standard dildo or bullet vibrator.

For Couples: Shared Toys, Remote Vibrators & Strap-Ons

Couple toys do not have to mean one very specific style of sex. For lesbians, couple play might mean taking turns with a vibrator, using a strap-on, trying a double-ended toy, controlling a remote vibrator, or simply adding a toy to what already works. The best couple toy is the one both actually want to use.

Shared Penetration Toys

Shared penetration toys are for couples who enjoy a more physically connected style of play. Some are designed for both partners to use together, while others work better for hands-free positioning or added vibration.

• 15.7-Inch Double-Ended Dildo: designed for shared penetration, making it a suitable choice for couples who want a toy they can enjoy together. Its double-ended shape allows both partners to stay physically connected while exploring rhythm, pressure and positioning at a pace that feels comfortable.
• Double Penetration Dildo Suction Base: offers more flexibility for hands-free play. The suction base helps keep the toy in place on a suitable smooth surface, while the dual design gives couples more room to experiment with different positions and sensations.
• Double Penetration Vibrating Dildo: brings vibration into shared penetration play, adding another layer of sensation for couples who want something more stimulating than a non-vibrating toy. It may suit partners who already enjoy penetrative toys and want to try a more playful, responsive option together.

Remote-Control Toys for Partner Play

Remote toys are great when you want one person to take control without making the whole thing too complicated. They can be playful, teasing and easy to use as part of foreplay or partner-led stimulation.

• Ultimate Vibe & Remote Vibrator: made for partner-controlled play, letting one person adjust the settings while the other enjoys the sensation. It can be a fun choice for couples who want to build anticipation, add teasing into foreplay or make vibrator play feel more shared.
• Butterfly Vibrator With Remote Control: a wearable-style option for couples who want hands-free external stimulation. The remote control makes it easy for a partner to take the lead, while the butterfly shape is designed to sit close to the body for focused pleasure.
• Intense Vibe Remote 10 Function Self Pleasure Egg: a compact remote-control toy with multiple vibration settings. It can suit couples who want something playful, discreet and easy to use together without moving straight into strap-ons or larger penetrative toys.

Strap-Ons and Harnesses

Strap-ons can be a great choice for couples who enjoy penetration, role switching or a more physical sense of giving and receiving. For beginners, comfort matters more than going big. A secure harness, a manageable size and plenty of lube will usually make the experience much better.

• Strap On Pleasures Dildo & Belt: is a good standard pick because it is simple and complete. You do not have to overthink separate pieces, and you can focus more on comfort, communication and what actually feels good.
• 7.8 Inch Dildo & Strap-On Belt Bundle: a practical option if you want a strap-on set with a manageable size. For newer couples, starting with something comfortable is usually better than choosing the biggest option straight away. Add lube, go slowly, and treat it as something to explore together rather than something you have to get perfect on the first try.
• Strap On Fantasy Vibrator: adds vibration to strap-on play, which may appeal if you want more sensation than a standard strap-on. It can be a good choice for couples who already know they enjoy strap-on play and want to bring in something a little more playful.

Comfort, Safety & Aftercare

A good toy is only part of the experience. The right extras can make play more comfortable, easier to clean up and better suited for sharing with a partner. If you are buying a dildo, strap-on, rabbit vibrator or any toy you may use together, it is worth adding a few basics to your order. A water-based lube can help everything feel smoother, condoms can make shared toy use simpler, and toy cleaner helps keep your toys fresh and ready for next time.

Quick Tips Before You Buy

• Start with what already feels good.
  If you usually prefer external touch, try a clit vibrator, bullet vibe, wand or suction toy. If you enjoy penetration, look at dildos, vibrating dildos or rabbit vibrators. If you are shopping with a partner, talk about whether you want shared penetration, remote-control play, strap-on play or something simple to use together.
• Do not choose the biggest option just because it looks exciting.
  Bigger is not always better. For dildos and strap-ons, a manageable size is usually more comfortable, especially if you are still figuring out what you like.
• Add lube, especially for dildos and strap-ons.
  A good water-based lube can make play smoother and more comfortable. It is one of the most practical add-ons when buying penetrative toys.
• Think about cleaning before you need to.
  If a toy may be shared, condoms and toy cleaner are worth having from the start. They make things easier, cleaner and less awkward in the moment.
• Choose a NZ adult store with discreet shipping.
  Shopping online can feel more comfortable when the store is local and discreet. Playmate is NZ owned and operated, with discreet delivery available across New Zealand.

Whether you are buying your first vibrator, choosing something new with your partner, or adding lube and toy cleaner to your drawer, Playmate makes it easy to shop sex toys online with discreet New Zealand national delivery.