Best Sex Toys for Lesbians NZ: A Complete Guide
Sex between women is wonderfully varied, and the right toys can make it even better. Whether you want something for penetration, clitoral pleasure, or a way to share the experience with a partner, there is a toy made for it. This guide is a friendly, judgement free look at the best sex toys for lesbians and queer women in New Zealand, how to choose them, and how to enjoy them together. You can browse the women's range at Playmate as you read.
Start with what you both enjoy
There is no single way that women have sex, so the best toy is the one that matches what you and your partner actually like. Do you enjoy clitoral stimulation, penetration, or both? Do you want a toy for one of you at a time, or something you can share at the same time? Are you curious about strap-on play, or would you rather start with something simple? There are no wrong answers, and many couples end up with a small mix of toys for different moods. Knowing roughly what appeals narrows the choice straight away.
Clitoral and external toys
For a lot of women, external stimulation is where the strongest pleasure lives, which makes clitoral toys a brilliant starting point. Small bullets are discreet, affordable and easy to use on yourself or a partner during other play. Wands deliver deep, rumbly power across a broader area for those who like more intensity. Air pulse toys, which use suction rather than vibration, are a favourite for quick, intense clitoral pleasure. A simple Bullet Vibrator, a powerful Magic Wand, or an air pulse toy like the Satisfyer Pro 2 each cover this in their own way.
Dildos
Dildos are versatile and a staple for many women. They can be used solo or by a partner, come in every size and shape, and a model with a suction base can stick to a surface for hands free play. If you enjoy internal stimulation, a smooth or gently curved dildo that reaches the G spot is a lovely place to start. For a full walk through, see our guide to using a dildo, and browse the dildos collection for the range of shapes and sizes.
Double ended dildos
A double ended dildo is designed to be enjoyed by two people at once, or for double penetration by one. It is one of the most popular toys for women who want to share penetration and feel connected in the moment. Start with a flexible model and plenty of lubricant, and take your time finding a comfortable position and rhythm together. The 15.7-Inch Double-Ended Dildo is made exactly for this kind of shared play.
Strap-ons and harnesses
A strap-on lets one partner wear a dildo and penetrate the other with their hands free, which opens up a whole new dynamic. Complete kits pair a comfortable harness with a matched dildo, which is the easiest way to begin, and you can swap the dildo later as your confidence grows. Look for a wide, adjustable harness and a body safe silicone dildo with a flared base. A ready to go set like the Strap On Pleasures Dildo & Belt or the Strap-On Play Double Dildo Female Harness is a great first choice. Our strap-on dildos guide covers fit, technique and more.
Toys to share at the same time
Part of the joy of toys is using them together rather than taking turns. A double ended dildo, a strap-on, or a couple of bullets used at once all let you both feel pleasure in the same moment. Wearable and remote toys add another layer, letting one of you control the other's sensation. Sharing this way keeps sex mutual and playful, and it often deepens the connection rather than replacing it. A rabbit style toy such as the Naughty Rabbit Vibrator can also be enjoyed together for internal and external stimulation at once.
Price bands in New Zealand
| Type | Typical NZ price |
|---|---|
| Bullets and small vibrators | $20 to $35 |
| Dildos | $40 to $75 |
| Double ended dildos | $50 to $60 |
| Wands | Around $60 |
| Strap-on kits | $50 to $95 |
| Air pulse toys | $100 and up |
Which toy should you start with
| If you want | Try this | Price |
|---|---|---|
| A simple, discreet first toy | Bullet Vibrator | $29.99 |
| Deep, powerful clitoral stimulation | Magic Wand Clitoral Vibrator | $59.99 |
| An air pulse sucking sensation | Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation | $109.99 |
| To share penetration together | 15.7-Inch Double-Ended Dildo | $59.99 |
| To explore strap-on play | Strap On Pleasures Dildo & Belt | $49.99 |
| Internal and external at once | Naughty Rabbit Vibrator | $44.99 |
Choosing together
Half the fun is choosing as a couple. Browse online side by side, with no one watching, and point out what appeals while ruling out what does not. Aim for a first toy that involves both of you, keep it simple, and do not feel you need everything at once. Most couples build a small collection over time, guided by what they actually reach for. Agreeing on the choice together also means you both arrive at the moment comfortable and a little excited.
Communication and comfort
The best sex toy in the world works better with open communication. Talk about what you are each curious about, agree that either of you can pause or stop at any time, and check in as you go. A no to one idea is never a no to everything, and there is always plenty else to explore together. Enthusiasm on both sides is what turns a toy from a nervous experiment into a highlight, so keep the conversation kind and playful.
Lube, materials and care
A few basics keep everything comfortable and safe. Use a water based lubricant, especially for penetration and for silicone toys, since it is body safe and will not damage them. Choose body safe silicone, ABS plastic, glass or stainless steel from a shop you trust, and avoid cheap materials with a strong chemical smell. Wash toys with warm water and a mild toy cleaner before and after use, dry them fully, and store them somewhere cool and dry. If you share a toy or move between partners, clean it in between, and a condom over a shared toy is a simple hygienic option.
There is no one right way
Perhaps the most freeing thing to remember is that there is no script to follow. Some couples love penetration, some rarely bother with it, some build everything around clitoral pleasure, and many mix it up depending on the mood. Toys are simply tools to help you enjoy what already works for you, not a checklist to complete. Let go of any idea of how sex between women is supposed to look, follow what genuinely feels good, and treat trying new things as a relaxed, ongoing adventure rather than a test. Your pleasure, on your terms, is the whole point.
Where to go next
Ready to explore? For specific toys, dig into our strap-on dildos guide, our guide to using a dildo, and our guide to buzzy versus rumbly vibrations. If internal stimulation is your goal, our guide to finding the G spot is a gentle read. Browse the full women's toys range, the strap-on collection, the dildos collection or the clitoral vibrators. Everything ships in plain, discreet packaging, so you can explore with confidence.